I think we need to understand why Michael had
any sleepovers with children at all. Not PRETEND we understand
it but REALLY feel what he felt like when surrounding himself
with children day and night.
With due respect to Mary Fischer´s arguments in her Was
Michael Jackson Framed? article I cannot agree with her
that Michael´s early experiences translated into
a kind of arrested development and he became a child in a man´s
The key to Michael´s behaviour seems to be in his extraordinary
loneliness in the first place and his exceptionally strong fatherly
instinct in the second coupled with immense love he kindled
in his heart in anticipation of having a family and children
of his OWN. All those girls throwing themselves in his arms
on stage were fools enough never to say the right thing in his
ear I´ll give you children instead
of I love you. If they had he would have been all
The children around him naturally took advantage of his fatherly
love for them in a way only they are capable of doing it
which is very well known to those of us who are parents themselves.
In their simple admiration for Michael they did not understand
WHAT they were asking for when they wanted to stay by him day
and night and did not realize how difficult it is for a loving
adult to turn them down in situations like these.
Considering that Michael´s early childhood years were
spent day and night in one and the same room with his older
brothers both at home and in hotels I think he
TRULY did not understand what was wrong with sharing the same
room with those he liked. Being on the move since the age of
5 his whole life was like a revolving door with people coming
and going whenever they wanted to
While reading the Floacist I came across Heather´s comments
on this issue. She is a preschool teacher and knows what she
is talking about: http://floacist.wordpress.com/2007/08/09/jordan-chandler/#comment-4817).
Let´s get one thing clear. Michael had sleepovers
at his house where he would be in the same room as the kids,
but he would sleep in a separate bed, or on the floor, and the
kids would sleep in another bed. Haven´t you ever heard
of SLUMBER PARTIES? I am a preschool teacher myself, and I enjoy
the company of children. Once a year we have a slumber party
at school for the biggest children, where a few teachers and
a bunch of children sleep in the same room area. Parents are
also invited to stay if they wish. At these parties we play
fun games, we play hide and seek, sing songs, read bedtime stories.
There´s an exchange of hugs between teachers and children
before they actually go to sleep.
There´s nothing wrong with any of this behavior, and I
believe these are the kind of activities that were going on
at Michael´s sleepovers. And anyone who automatically
reads sexual intentions into this behavior, must be some kind
of a pervo himself.
MJ probably would have been a great and fun kindergarten teacher
if he wasn´t a multitalented superstar.
As an early childhood educator, I´ve also had some babysitting
jobs in the evenings, where at times I had to lay in the same
bed as the child to comfort her/him for one reason or another.
The child could be anxious and stressed because mom and dad
were not present, and may have had a hard time sleeping, and
it had occurred that the child would ask me to lay with them
for a while and for example read a story together. That´s
a natural request from a child that feels comfortable with the
person they´re with. Of course, we have to be careful
as adult caregivers or friends to young children who are not
closely related to us, because these situations can be misinterpreted,
especially when the adult is a man.
I see MJ as a nurturing mother/father figure. He was strange-looking,
eccentric and a bit wierd like any uniquely talented person
usually is, but if you look beyond all that, he was just a nurturing
parent figure with a childlike heart, but an adult mind, just
wanting to give all the love, compassion and childlike joy that
he had in his heart.
I believe these kids wanted to sleep with Michael because he´s
so fun and Michael didn´t see it as being unusual anymore
because he saw the kids and treated them as his own.
I can see where MJ had a hard time saying NO. Kids can truly
be bratty and demanding and make you feel bad if you say NO.
But if you do not have the experience of having dealt with kids,
you do not know how to say NO and they don´t give up until
you say YES.
So I can see how MJ would have a hard time to say NO…
to the kids and to their families…
. that´s how they
got all the gifts.
The cancer patient even said MJ slept on the floor
I believe MJ saw it as a sleepover and didn´t distinguish
whether or not these kids were blood relatives or not. I can
see where some of the kids at school just want to hug me all
and I have to keep my distance because I am
afraid of being accused of exactly what MJ was accused of.
MJ didn´t know how to say NO. That was his biggest
to be kind and to be unable to say NO to children
whom he loved so much. I could never love children like MJ
I will spank my kids if they are bad, MJ probably would never
Thank you Helena for sharing your investigation!